Hardly anyone will argue with the fact that falling in love with a married woman is a difficult situation. A man who falls under the spell of someone else’s female asks himself the following questions: “What should I do next?” “Will she break up with her husband to be with me?” “Should I forget her and stop communicating with the woman?”
It’s hard to give unambiguous answers to these questions, but we will try to help you deal with the situation.
1. Women’s cheating out of mercenary motives
As a rule, married women start to carry on extramarital affairs when they want to make up for the lack of romance in their married life. To be more exact, they search for emotional and sexual “sparks” that are absent in their relationships with husbands.
At the same time, most of these unfaithful women don’t have an intention to leave their husbands. From this, it can be concluded that a married female who has an affair with a new partner just takes advantage of him in order to satisfy their craving for sex or other desires that legitimate partners are unable to satisfy.
For this reason, pay attention to a woman’s behavior when you first meet her. If a female tells you that she is very temperamental and voluptuous, throws her arms around your neck without knowing you, without talking to you properly and, most importantly, without any initiative on your part, this is a signal that she doesn’t have enough sex in conjugal life and just wants to make use of you.
It is obvious that when noticing such a behavior, you need to nip such a relationship in the bud – of course, if you don’t want just a one-night stand.
2. Wife’s infidelity as a way to avoid stress
Sometimes women begin to roll in the hay with strangers in order to relieve their stress and escape family problems. It often happens when their husbands are abusive and violent.
However, in this case, females aren’t normally ready to trade their legitimate partner for new lovers for good. The point is that wives who are involved in abusive relationships and are often exposed to violence don’t even think about leaving their husbands because they are too afraid to do that.
Such women won’t let you intervene in their problematic relationships with family tyrants. Such a scenario may lead you to despair and frustration, since you are not able to influence the situation at all.
Men who face this issue are normally worried about what aggressive husbands can do with their spouses when they learn about their betrayal.
In this case, lovers’ life turns into constant stress. Even when they are together, they are fearful of being noticed in public together.
Thus, having an affair with a married woman can have a negative impact on your psychological well-being. That’s why it’s reasonable to find out beforehand whether your lover is brave enough to abandon her aggressive spouse.
3. Married women are unlikely to give up their comforts
In most cases, married couples invest a lot of energy, work, money and other things in the development and preservation of their marriages.
Moreover, husbands have to work hard to provide for their families. If a spouse brings enough money to the family and manages to create comfortable conditions for life, a female begins to feel safe and protected with such a man.
So when it comes to choosing a long-term partner a female would like to live her whole life with, she will most likely give preference to her husband, who is associated in her mind with stability and security.
It’s very psychologically hard for any person to give up stability, even if he or she doesn’t think so.
Women are biologically wired in such a way that they cling to males who can satisfy all their material needs. And there is nothing you can do about it.
So if your lover’s husband is well off financially, think twice before building a relationship with his wife.
4. How to terminate your relationship with a married woman?
If you are in love with a married female, and you realize that you have to part with her, it will be wise to do that at the early stage of your relationship until they have gone too far.
If your new lover succeeds in making your head spin, you will eventually ruin someone’s family before you know it.
That’s why, if you take a decision to break up with a married female, do it quickly and confidently. Tell the woman that you aren’t ready for such a relationship. Don’t text or phone her anymore. Stop responding to her phone calls and messages. Get rid of all her contact details, old messages and photos.
Sometimes it is reasonable to move to a different apartment or even change your job so as not to meet her again.
It should be noted that when a man who is deeply in love with a married woman breaks up with her, he faces the process of grief. This is a normal occurrence. You just need to give yourself some time and make a conscious effort to forget her.
Devote your time to doing what you like the most. Find a new hobby or occupation and keep yourself busy. Take the time to walk around in a park, meet your friends, or attend an interesting event.
The only thing that you shouldn’t do after the breakup is to search for a new girlfriend right away. You need some to restore your mental, physical and emotional energy before you’ll find your significant other and build a strong and long-term relationship with her.
5. How to take a woman away from her family
If your partner’s marriage is currently cracking, it’s quite possible that it has exhausted itself already. In this case, a woman may be ready to build a serious and trusting relationship with a different person, and you can become the one that she will choose.
In order to prove that you are worthy of becoming her new husband, you should do the following:
- Take interest in her life, give compliments about her appearance and personality traits, support her endeavors, cheer her up in difficult moments and share the joy of success. This will foster trust and friendship between you and your loved one.
- Show her your strengths, especially those that her previous legitimate partner didn’t have. This will allow you to compare favorably with him.
- Listen to your partner carefully. This will help you realize why she was unhappy in previous relationships.
- Find out more about her children. When your lover gets out of marriage, it’s highly likely that her kids will stay with their mother, which means that you’ll have to get along with them. You should let the child know that you’ll give him or her the best you’ve got to bring up a worthy person.
That’s pretty much all we wanted to tell you about what to do if you are in love with a married woman. If you give a sober assessment of a situation at an early stage of acquaintance with such a woman, you’ll make the right decision about how your relationship should unfold.